Where I come from, it used to be really inappropriate to pin out the things you love about yourself or simply just the things your good at.
But Instagram or just social media, in general, came into the world and changed that… or actually I’m not sure about that.
But, my generation loves to show off on social media but in an “I’m not really trying to hard, kind of way” of course, even I do that… but we all know, that we all try our best to look good, or at least to create a look or an aesthetic that fits our image or into the IG feed which is super sad, I know.
So, every day we collect inspiration, on social media, in magazines, TV, commercials, and from all the beautiful people we see on the streets that we think look better than ourselves.
But this is not a blog post about how bad the society has become with all its technology, social media, and unrealistic bullshit.
But let me tell you this…not everything is unrealistic, even though some things can be sometimes, even when they actually look real.
Sometimes you get fooled, but not every time.
Just remember we are society, so in the end, I believe that it’s all up to ourselves.
Everything…education/no education, sexuality, religion, coffee brand, political opinion, mental health, love, toothpaste, body image, and attitude.
Motherfucking everything is up to you.
Sorry for my underdeveloped language skills, but I’m a simple being.
My point is just that I recently, while I was walking around naked in my apartment, got a comment/compliment from two of my very close friends, saying ” why are you so comfortable naked?” they both said with a laugh and at the same time with an admiring tone to there voices.
Normally I would just have said something stupid or even made a joke of my nonexistent tits.
But instead I just simply asked “why would I ever feel uncomfortable right now? this is just my body” while trying not to sound arrogant or get misunderstood.
And then it hit me, I truly feel blessed because of the fact that I’m not worried about situations like that.
And it’s actually really something that I’m grateful for every single day… because, imagine going through every single day having one less thing to worry about, so you can put your time and focus into dreams and people, wouldn’t that be great?
I know that self-image and especially body image matter so much to everyone around the world, I believe its a cultural thing.
Thoughts like “if I could just find the time and energy to workout as much as that Instagram model”, ” I feel fat after eating those fries” “that girl have such a nice pair of legs, mine are short enough to fit into the kid section jeans, besides my ass is too big” or even “I wonder if his ex’s skin was prettier than mine” .
Bullshit thoughts, that you hit yourself with when you’re mostly already feeling low, thoughts that can easily take away the feeling of being carelessly happy.
And that is just a waste of time because your happiness should always be your number one priority.
Even if it involves other people or drastic changes, all you get is you and you gotta be the best role model for yourself.
That’s why I want to share my thoughts about my situation, and I really hope that you are getting the right vibes from me because I’m really not trying to sound totally put together or anything, it’s just my personal thoughts and I know that we all got insecurities.
But as long as we give or insecurities a hug from time to time.
Personally, I would say while growing up I have reached a mental level that allows me to think that I am 100% perfect for me and that has to be! and it is enough.
And if there is something about me or the way I look that distracts me from being happy, I’ll 100% go change that into the better by working and improving in some way, or make myself think about if my insecurity actually is something I can accept and learn to love? because if you can’t love it it’s not worth your time thinking about accepting it. Then rather take action to learn something new. For example, I used to hate my eye’s, I have something called a lazy eye which results in that my left eye is much more closed than the right eye, which made me think that I kinda looked like the cartoon Quasimoto. It used to bother me so much when I was younger, that I was 100% sure that I was going to have a surgery the day I would turn 18 so I could finally get rid of my lazy eye.
But that never happened, I now live in 2018 along whit my cute lazy eye on my face.
As I grew older I started to realize that my insecurity actually was something other people adored about my look. And of course that instantly empowers you a little, after all as humans, we are all searching for recognition.
Especially hearing something like that from a person you love, doesn’t necessarily make you believe in it, but it can plant a little seed of self-love and encourage you to bloom later on.
Remember, we all experience the world in different ways, so the things you feel insecure about can actually be the things that we love about you the most.
So, my advice on how to get more comfortable with yourself and your body is simply to give your insecurities a big warm hug and tell them to calm the fuck down, they are a part of you and you are the most perfect imperfection.
Trust me your imperfections can shape you to be even more awesome if you just let yourself love them to the fullest.
Perfection was born from imperfections.
And last but not least, outta glow and what I personally define as “good-looking people” comes from inner peace, a kind heart, and a great personality.